TRUST AND THE SISTERHOOD WOUND
The sisterhood wound runs deep. Betrayal among sisters (and I’m not talking of blood sisters although that’s a thing too) is one of the hardest breaches of trust to experience and work through.
It expresses itself in many forms; gossiping, emotional manipulation (often highly subtle), wanting something from her when you don’t really care about the relationship, not respecting boundaries.
And most, if not ALL women have done at least one of these things in our lives, including myself, as well as been on the receiving end of them too.
There are many stories throughout history of women betraying women AND many stories of women who show deep devotion and loyalty, even risking their lives for the lives of their sisters.
We don’t need to go to such extremities to support each other – but what history also shows is the primal power of women and how much more we can achieve when we don’t compete but collaborate and support.
We want to trust that our sisters have our best interests at heart, that they will celebrate our successes with joy even if they haven’t experienced their own successes yet. That it will put a fire in their bellies to find their own version of success, rather that spiral into anger or bitterness because they don’t have ‘that thing’ yet.
To feel jealous is fine, it’s indicative of what we want to experience ourselves – but it’s what we do with that jealousy that matters most.
This is where self-knowing, awareness and compassion are imperative – for example, knowing what jealousy means (what it’s really about) and how to positively work with it for change. Getting curious about exploring the ‘why’ and the meaning of what you feel. Developing trust in your internal emotional world.
HEALING FROM PAST WOUNDS AND WOUNDING
I’ll leave you with some questions for thought today >
What successes of friends or women you admire can you celebrate and give good energy to today?
How can you begin to heal past wounds of mistrust or betrayal from your sisters? (for example, travel back to the experience and feel the pain or hurt you felt then, then look through the eyes of your sister, explore what she may have been lacking within herself (trust, confidence, security, etc) to behave towards you that way – take as long as you need – practice feeling compassion and love for her, forgive her, then release (try the ancient Hawaiian practice for reconciliation and forgiveness called Ho’o’ponopono). Note> If your wounds and hurt run really deep, you may want to do this several times, step by step.
What can you do to help heal the wounds you have caused your sisters? (think of your sister, ask for forgiveness, explore your own reasons for behaving in the way that you did).
We can achieve more, make a bigger difference, love more deeply and thrive when we support and collaborate with each other.
Love to hear your comments and experiences on #Trust and #thesisterhoodwound so do share in the comments below.
Sending love and good energy to you,
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